Bridal Shower Gift EtiquetteWhat is this page about? Bridal Shower Gift Etiquette, sending a wedding gift etiquette, bridal shower etiquette, etiquette The History and Tradition Of Gift Giving The foundation of the bridal shower was built around the notion of helping the future newlywed to set up a new home with her new husband. To help and celebrate the joyous occasions, guests brought household gifts to the traditionally all women party. According to "The Wedding Book", by Mindy Weiss, the tradition of the bridal shower dates back at least 300 years when a wealthy dutch girl fell in love with a good-hearted but poor miller. Since his daughter would not be properly be provided for, her father refused to let them marry. Friends and neighbours wanted to see the love match succeed so they gave her gifts to set up her household. The bridal shower is usually held two to three months for the wedding. It is a party thrown for you, in your honour where you'll be showered with gifts to set up your new home. Traditionally female guests will prepare and provide food and drinks, and play party games. Also in some instances, there'll be an opening gift ceremony. Bridal Shower Gift EtiquetteBridal shower gift etiquette - learning what is appropriate to give, receive and all the business of bridal showers and gift-giving today.  In general, if you are the bride, you should not have the attitude of expecting gifts but is more than grateful when a gift is bestowed on you. If you are the host or a guest, you give the best gift that you can, making the effort to give a thoughtful and useful gift, graciously including the 'returns and exchanges' gift slip and give it with not strings attached, no expectations of a thank you note. Also, kindly look away and pretend you have not noticed if she indeed has exchanged it for something else more useful or some much needed cash. Bridal Shower Gift EtiquetteBridal Shower Gift Giving TodayIn society today, thankfully there are a good few of those genuinely embarrassed at the idea of inviting close friends to a celebration that centers around giving gifts to her. Though most people do not object receiving presents however, this tradition has been reduced to sometimes a burden to both the giver to the recipient. As registries are common place, the recipient feels the dread of going to shop for the sake of shopping. And on the other hand, the giver struggles with using no creativity of getting her a present, especially if the latter loves to shop.  And in some cases, as Miss Manners would describe, "greed on one hand and laziness on the other." It has deteriorated into the mechanical transfer of money or selection of an item from the recipients shopping list.- Miss Manners Wedding Etiquette Bridal Shower Gift EtiquetteThe Use of Registries & Attitudes Towards GiftsAs said earlier, some people do not object to receiving presents and have even gone so far to think about how best to please themselves. "They want to do everything connected with giving the presents except of course paying for them."- Miss Manners Wedding Etiquette Some have even gone overboard by selecting expensive presents listing them in their upscale, uptown registry. I'd like to remind every one that while the bride is indeed shelling a bomb on her wedding on her guests, they, in many cases are shelling quite a bit back at the bride. There are the expenses going to your wedding, buying a good wedding gift, and before that buying you a present for your bridal shower and engagement party. How many gifts must one person give in order to see you get married? While it is true not all household presents are appropriate, that is why I kindly suggest you slip in the return and exchange card discretely and respectfully. There must be more respect with the attitudes than registries and exchanging the goods and the works. Brides should let guests be generous on their own accord, and feel that way, rather than simply picking what is the cheapest thing or what they can most afford on your own, self-picked list. Also presents are not supposed to be compensations for the amounts spent on food and drink. So should I stick to the registry?Well I never liked registries, but if you have been given one (they usually arrive in the mail with the bridal shower invitation), by all means go get what she wants. Include a very beautiful card with a personal message wishing her happiness. Can I Buy Something That Is Not Registered?In general, I don't think anyone can say gift giving should be dictated by the recipient. You are free to give what you think its appropriate in good taste. Registries are for those people who do not know the bride well, do not have time, or simply have no creativity or particular insight to what will satisfy the bride as a good gift. Yes, also and more so if the gifts listed are crazily expensive. I might feel a little insulted and made use of. You may want to try to give an alternate present that is good and smart and something she would really like, if she is your good friend. Otherwise, maybe its better that you decline the invitation and send good wishes instead.  Or maybe a Cosmopolitan or two instead? Continue reading bridal shower gift etiquette page two. You might be interested in:
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