Declining an Invite

by Jennifer M.
(Omaha, Ne)

Is it ill mannered to decline an invitation to an event based on the price? For example, rather than declining the invitation by just saying, thanks but no thanks. Or should one simply say, I won't be attending because the dinner will cost too much? Which is the more tactful way?

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Feb 16, 2016
Totally at a loss. NEW
by: Anonymous

Our niece, my husbands goddaughter is getting married. After her father died we would try to reach out and never get a returned call or any kind of acknowledgement on facebook. % years ago they came to father-in-laws funeral, acting like we were all close. They refused to join us for lunch, left and never heard from them again even when her Aunt died and they were notified. Now we would have to drive 850 miles and stay in hotel 2 nights and probably be ignored. Should we go for the sake of her father, who was my husband's twin? Feeling hurt but torn.

May 07, 2011
Gently decline--without a reason
by: Dandelion

Agreed--the more polite way is to simply decline without giving a reason. (You shouldn't have to explain or defend your decision--it was an invite, not a summons.)

May 07, 2010
You can decline politely without revealing your reasons
by: Eunice replies

You don't have to reveal your reason if you don't wish to.

If someone probes, just say you've got something planned.

If they probe further (which is really rude of them), you can say, well, "I just didn't feel like spending on something I'm not that interested in."

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