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Difficulty in "complimenting" a woman

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Jan 20, 2012
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Good lesson for boys? NEW
by: Stephanie

My son is sixteen and just started dating girls. Do you think I should have him read this story? I thought it might be instructional for him regarding the do's and don't's when talking to females. And to be honest, after reading that story I had this vision that one night after a date he'll come home with a red hand print on his cheek for some indiscretion, lol, and I'll feel like I could have done/said something to prevent that from happening ;)

Jan 11, 2010
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Stop Digging!
by: Anonymous

Always, always, always stay away from any particulars about a woman's body. Personally, I would have taken the compliment as what it was simply because I'm forgiving and know that (more likely than not) the guy really is trying to gain some extra points.
Stick with vague, non-pinpointing comments. "You look lovely tonight" or, my personal favorite, "Wow! You look absolutely stunning!" Leave it at that.
And, when you find yourself in a hole... Stop Digging! LOL. With women, there is no such thing as damage control. She either forgives you or she doesn't.

Nov 17, 2009
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I agree!
by: Eunice

Dear Kevin,

Those comments are pretty funny!

I wholeheartedly agree with those women. You have heard from the horse's mouth. Better to use phrases we like to hear!

1) You look beautiful tonight.
2) I love your hair.
3) Wow, you look pretty!
4) What a lovely dress!
5) You look lovely
6) You look great!

Commenting on a woman's figure will only make her feel self-conscious.

All the best to your next time!

Nov 16, 2009
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touchy subject
by: Anonymous

As a woman with a "full" hourglass figure, I would have been similarly offended. Still, he could have salvaged things by NOT going into damage control mode and simply saying that he thought she looked lovely. He sealed his fate when he called her "healthy". I would love to have been a fly on the wall to have seen that slap and the aftermath, lol.

Nov 16, 2009
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Stick to what we like to hear.
by: Women of the world

I think it's best to stick to, "You look beautiful," or "I love your dress."

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