An Elegant Bride To Be
I was going to write about planning an elegant wedding but I've realized there are a million sites that do that. So I decided to write about planning to be a beautiful elegant bride. As we adhere to elegant principles, our weddings can be as elegant as we like, adjusted to our personal taste and style. Though despite it being tremendously beautiful, sometimes, there is a little insecurity and self doubt. This is because we subconsciously neglect on our own inner elegance - the way we feel will project how we look! Whether you are getting married or not, most of us can relate to this when we have a big day coming up. You want to look great and not have any doubt show up on your face! Here is how to have ease and be a truly elegant bride. Preparation is key for an elegant bride Although some of us would not like to openly admit it, there is considerable pressure to look your best on your wedding day. Even if you are normally happy with your weight, skin, colour on your cheeks, somehow we want to reach for the stars and look better than we currently do. We also know we can always look better than we do now. 
Get a Devotional, elegant brides! Taking care of yourself means guarding your heart. Some of us are quite committed not to put rubbish foods in our mouth to be healthy. If only we can also have a mental commitment and filter as well! Abstain from unwholesome reading/viewing material, people who complain incessantly, bad news (read newspapers by summaries and headlines). Start the day with a devotional , something to inspire your steps and energies when going about completing your day. It is as refreshing as ice cold lemondade in a sweltering hot day! Have one of those daily calendars with a quote, or get them sent to your email daily, especially if the first thing you do is check your email.
What is in your heart will show up on your face. Eyes will be gentler, lovelier. We will be more prone to smile...our faces will have some kind of a 'glory', if you know what I mean. To be an glorious elegant bride! Your Relationship Don't forget and neglect your future husband! It is true that sometimes we get overwhelmed by the planning, the budgeting, the guestlist...our frustration causes us to be snap at our men. Especially when we KNOW they don't understand! We then find ourselves far from being the elegant bride.
It's always the same case where usually the bride receives the bulk of the planning. I'm like his secretary. I do all the research, planning and legwork and present the options to him. He then picks and choose or perhaps signal to me that I have to start over. Well. Pick your battles! As Kate Spade says, "It takes a lot of work just finding the right person, so go easy on yourself when it comes to the wedding itself." In the midst of planning, have a big picture view. The marriage is more important on the wedding, try not to be too stressed out! I'm for still showering him with tender loving care, support, encouragement and Not talking about the wedding endlessly. Try to let him bring it up. Or casually mention in one sentence when you are brushing your hair, "By the way, I'm going to get the florist to do my flowers in purple and pink pastels, let me know if it's not okay." Let your relationship fully blossom at the pronounce of this new commitment, your engagement. Take new levels of commitment. Act a little like you are married, but NOT too married. Still go on dates, do sweet little things, get to know his family well and prepare yourself to soon count them as your own. And oh, keep dating! Picture of us going for walks in Paris An elegant bride considers her Family Your parents and siblings are going to be missing you. Truly. Sometimes I witness happiness and a little sadness when a sister or brother gets married. While they are tremendously happy for the union, they get a sense of a loss. It is somewhat a loss. Depending on circumstance, an elegant bride may still be living at home with family where the loss will be more felt. Perhaps she will be moving to another town, where is further away to live with her new family. Also there is a 'competition' with their new family for time spent together. This christmas, next christmas, every weekend and the works. Sometimes a close mother, or father, or brother or sister will feel as though their access of their soon-to-be married loved one is limited. She will always be with her husband, and gone will be the days they can have unlimited access. On occasion, you'll feel it too. You know you'll be soon missing the intimate closeness with your family when you were growing up or is exclusive to the not-yet-married woman. You know, going home together, waking up together in the same house, having meals together, going to church together... with just you and your family. 
To make an easier transition for everyone, spend the last year of your single life as much as you can with them. Show them how much you appreciate them for being your family and subtly assure them by words or actions that they'll always have access to you, be close to you. Instill little routines or rituals and keep them going after you are married.(Have an elegant bachelorette party!) For instance, going for facials with mom, watching christmas movies with brother during christmas, going to lunch every friday with dad at his office, sister time - pilates class together. On the right is a snapshot of our newly merged family. Your Friends and people around you When you announce your engagement, don't expect any one to jump up and scream in the same excitement as you. Your family: This is sensitive but sometimes they do not share in the same view as you and may wish your husband is of some other profession, that you are too young or can find someone better. Your friends: While I believe most are ecstatic and genuinely happy for you, they sometimes look at themselves and see the lack in themselves. Maybe they are struggling with a partner who does not want to commit, or that they've been going from one bad relationship to another or are struggling with finding the right one. I find it better to send a tasteful message or announcement. Inform your family and close friends first by a phone call. When you do speak of it, speak in a calm manner and smile warmly. It is not elegant to scream anyway! While wedding planning is exciting, do not forget your elegant manner, to make people feel at ease! I try not to talk about my engagement or wedding after the civilities are exchanged. I remember my helpless twinge envy when my friends got married and how I felt like rolling my eyes whenever all they could talk about was wedding, wedding, wedding. It was quite narcissistic. I try to remember that and spare my friends. If you really need to talk about your wedding, find a person obsessed about her own wedding and keep the wedding talk confined between both of you! An Elegant Bride's Skin care Sometimes wedding stress may cause you to break out. There are many reasons why you breakout. Therefore, it is important to maintain a healthy diet with lots of vegetables and water, as well as to sleep early and ensure enough sleep. Care for your skin. Have a skin care regime. If you don't have one, start now! Depending on what type of skin you have, you might consult a dermatologist. If your skin care regime is working for you, stick to it if you only have 6 months to the wedding! Using the wrong skincare product may cause breakouts! As we get older and being exposed to more pollution, wearing make up constantly, we find it hard to clear the break out. I can speak for myself. Out of nowhere, my skin started breaking out and I could not use my usual remedies of sleeping well, eating fruits and veggies, plain old moisturizer to clear up those adult acne. My self confidence plummeted and so I started to try to find out the cause and solution. More about that here. Deportment, Poise, Posture Note down visual examples of an elegant bride or write little things that you notice about her. Do it now! Train yourself. Mirror Exercise If you are not happy, correct, correct, correct until it becomes natural Video-record Exercise Get someone to record the way you speak, eat, laugh, giggle, smile, walk, sit and stand and general movements. Same as the above! DVD Exercise Pick out a few favourite women who moves gracefully, speak gently and conduct themselves and watch them over and over again. Let them inspire you. Play the DVD when you do housework, or when you are getting dressed etc. Let these visuals take over you and eventually you'll start 'channelling' them. Imitation is the best way to learn. If you are good at acting, study these characters and play a character to get used to the qualities that you want. You might want to read my lot of articles on poise Exercise For the Elegant Bride Exercise is a must for good posture, health and to sleep well. No one likes to do something they don't like so if you hate running, forget about jogging and running for the sake of exercise. It's already hard to will ourselves to exercise, let alone do something we do not like. Find something you enjoy. The key is consistency and moving about. As we get older, we get busier but not necessarily means we are physically moving about. If I had my pedometer on me and I stay home and write ten pages on The Elegant Woman, I'm productive, but my pedometer shows only five hundred steps (we need ten thousand steps for general well being). Perhaps, schedule a weekly tennis session with your bestfriends, a cycle with your children, get a dog so you can have company on your walks and meet other dog lovers. Do pilates with your girlfriends, join a ballroom dance school etc. Lastly, Things to Remember - Your marriage is more important than your wedding Thank you for reading this page!
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It helps purge out negative thoughts, low self-esteem, frown lines, grumpiness etc. It helps us to be the loveliest woman that we know we can be. 
I encourage all women here including myself to hold your tongue . First of all, by holding our tongues, we put out potential fires. Second of all, we appear to be agreeing, until he wonders why we haven't responded and gives us a curious look, we should then proceed to say gently our thoughts. 
