The Elegant Sophisticated Woman
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One Genuine Manner
The elegant sophisticated woman has one genuine manner.
Have one genuine manner - meaning you treat everybody the same, from the very important or famous person and the waitress you just served you your dinner. This will give you freedom from pretentiousness, phoniness and self consciousness.
Only those people who have no manners, save their best behaviour for the VIPs. They then change their behaviour once they are aware of 'who you are'.
Raise Your Comfort With Luxury
The elegant sophisticated woman is at home with luxury.
Your confidence level can only rise to what you are comfortable with. Do fancy stores and restaurants intimidate you? Does a certain kind of highly accomplished person or wealthy person make you feel embarrassed?
Confront your intimidation and remove them!
Learn to get comfortable in ANY place, circumstance or situation, no matter where you go.
Eating at different restaurants. Travelling to unknown places. Speaking with people you aren't familiar with. Being around people who intimidate you. Public speaking. Being at a fancy ball, dining with very important people.
If you are not comfortable with dressing up, dress up! Practice dressing up. Get away with a little at a time. If you are always in flip flops, wear sandals, then little ballet flats, then kitten heels etc etc.
Look as good as possible to strengthen your self confidence and esteem.
Write down as many situations as you can think of that are uncomfortable for you.
A) A party where I don't know anyone.
B) When people ask about ....
C) When I have to speak about ....
D) _________________
Work out a response in your mind, write it down, memorize it, practice it in the mirror.
Study the art of conversation.
You will only rise as high as your comfort level, so you want to begin elevating your comfort level.
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For instance, when you first got your job and earned $100 a week, you only shopped in stores which sold shoes $20 and under. Buy $150 shoes was out of this world for you. Then you earned $500 a week and suddenly, those $150 seemed more affordable and became the norm.
What happened?
Your confidence with luxury increased.
Another instance, you first could afford 300 thread count Egyptian cotton sheets, then afterwards, there was a sale at Bloomingdales and you decided to upgrade and buy 700 thread count sheets. You swop them over when you get home and sleep in them for a month. It's time to wash the sheets and you've replaced them with your previous 300 thread count sheets and instantly you can tell the difference.
What happened?
Your comfort with luxury just got elevated and you've developed a discriminating taste for quality.
The principle applied to raising your comfort level to luxury applies to people who intimate you as well.
It's hard to justify but different kinds of people make each of us nervous. Talking to a celebrity might make you nervous but perhaps, not your sister. But talking to an highly educated person might make her nervous but not you.
Many types of people may intimidate you. Such as:
Beautiful people
Intelligent people
The wealthy
Those financially savvy
Those from certain schools
Those who speak the perfect language
Some with heavy accents
Famous people
Influential people
The widely travelled
The sophisticated
The snobby
The savvy
The knowledgeable
The religious
The materialistic
The fashionista
The connected
The more intimidating people you meet, the more you practice and increase your quiet self confidence, you'll soon learn that they are just like you and me. Then, we'll no longer be intimidated.
Continue reading about the habits of the Elegant and Sophisticated Woman.
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2. Social Ease - Grace your way through parties
3. Elegant Entertaining: How To Throw Elegant Coffees, Dinner Parties
4. Elegant Sophisticated Selection - Choose Your Way Into Elegance
5. How to be Classy
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