Exactly what I've been looking for!

by Ariel

Hello Eunice!

I was raised by my mother and step father and they have always taught me to be very lady like. Last May I graduated from high school and I took a look at myself and it seems that I've grown up a lot lately. I had lost many friends my senior year of high school, for standing up for what I believe in (I.E. boyfriends who should treat their girlfriends with respect, and just people giving others respect in general) but I started realizing maybe I had lost myself and that I was becoming mean and just plain rude. People would say things about me and I would ignore it, not giving into the bad mouthing or rudeness. I started surrounding myself with people that actually cared about me and liked me for saying my please and thank you's.
I go to a community college to save money before I go off to hopefully 1 of 2 of my dream schools. I got a job at the pizza place down the street from my house and let me tell you, the people I work with can say some very inappropriate things sometimes. They yell at me for being to nice and polite, and tell me that I need to loosen up a bit- and I've started too. I always try to be nice to my co-workers and they tell me to be more on rough side. Recently, I was stocking up on plates and I couldn't reach anything because I'm slightly shorter then average, when two very nice guys offered to help me out. Now the plates are glass so they get very heavy carrying them around work. So I put everything I needed on a table told the boys thank you, and grabbed some plates and went to put them away- not realizing that they were going to help me carry the plates to where I needed them. The girl who usually stocks the plates just stood there in shock and asked the boys why they never helped her, they just stood there and said she's always nice to us, we figured we would help her out. This made me smile, because the girl usually says many inappropriate things and makes me (and others) feel uncomfortable. It felt so nice to have people help me out because I was nice to them to begin with, that I wanted to become a better person. I set out to find a website on how to be a lady and this is what I found. It's perfect. And also congratulations on getting married. (I realize this is a little late, but I do wish the best for you and your husband!)

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Oct 16, 2012
Trade the pants and sweatshirts for dresses! NEW
by: Anonymous Mom

I would like to congratulate you on your commitment to being a lady. My own daughter attends Community College, remembers her please and thankyou's, acknowledges everyone with a smile and a nod, and never uses vulgar language. She always wears flowing skirts or culottes, a touch of makeup, and shiny hair--worn up or down. All of her well-made outfits and accessories come from thrift shops.
Doors are opened for her, the professors appreciate her politeness, and she attracts many different friends with her genuine graciousness. One young man told her, "You always look so elegant!"
It doesn't take money or position to be considered an Elegant Woman, just an attitude of modest femininity. Stay the course!

Jun 07, 2012
Understand Your Pain NEW
by: Shanice

I too went to high school where I had friends and students that would seldom tease me for my mannerisms and my diplomatic approaches to conflict (Bulk majority came from the other females.) they would ask me,"How come you don't get mad?" or simply would be annoyed of me because of my feminine and "girly" apperance and personality. It used to make me mad when some girls would put me down because I wasn't rough, rude and get bent out of shape over something petty. The only people that seemed to appreciate me was the teachers,down to earth friends and some boys.
As I reflect on my past experiences I realize is was jealousy from others that made them go out their way to crush me. Guys that didn't want nothing to do with me because I act lady-like and gracious come up to me trying to ask me out, help me with stuff like a gentleman, or stare because of my diffrent style from the rest of the girls who acted rough and violent.
I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who went through this same drama in secondary school.

~Wish you the best of luck

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