Girlfriend's husband "not too friendly"

by Rosanne
(Metuchen, NJ)

I have been friends with Lisa for several years. Our friendship has become very close since our seven year old boys have been friends since preschool.

Lisa's husband has done very well for himself, making a lot of money. He enjoys spending his free time playing golf at the local country club.

My husband and I, coming from essentially the same background, are not quite so financially well off. However, both my husband and I are very well educated; I have an MSW and my husband has an MBA. My husband prefers to spend his free time getting involved in my son's sporting activities and other family pastimes.

When I go over to Lisa's I have been noticing that her husband barely takes the time to say hello to me and somtimes doesn't acknowledge my presence at all.

He can be on his cell phone walking around the yard in the evening "on business" and doesn't even bother to lift his hand to wave if I am dropping the kids off.

I am beginning to get really ticked off about this. Lisa says not to take it personally. She says her husband is friendly but only to people he chooses to be friendly with. To me this sounds like a bit of elitism but his total lack of civility is a total lack of manners.

What do you think and how should I handle this situation?