Good Table Manners

Just don't do these things!

How to have good table manners - just don't do these things!

good table manners

  • Eating with the mouth open

  • Making noises; slurping, chewing loudly, burping

  • Talking and gesticulating while eating

  • Putting too much into the mouth

  • Elbows on the table

  • Elbows stuck out in a flapping-like-a-chicken position

  • Holding the fork or knife in stabbing position

  • Hunching over the food like a dog

  • Eating too quickly (like there's no tomorrow); and especially putting food in your mouth before you're done with the previous mouthfull.

  • Clinking cutlery like stirring a tea spoon loudly

  • Don't gesture with your cutlery

  • Don't double dip

  • Overloading the plate

  • Making a mess at your table with bits of food and spills

  • Rocking your chair; getting up and sitting down noisily

  • Sticking your little pinky out when drinking your tea cup

  • Children should not leave the table without asking first

  • But they should not be left free to run around, play and annoy other patrons.
  • Do not leave the table when someone hasn't finished eating

  • Don't pick up dropped napkins, cutlery - ask for one.

  • If you have to polish your cutlery, please do it discreetly or unseen.

  • Do not put used cutlery back on the table.

  • Don't take pictures of food or of the restaurant or the buffet.

  • I'm guilty of this, I do this sometimes especially when I want to blog about what I ate. I try to do this very discreetly and swiftly (if I absolutely had to). Also, photography is completely not allowed in traditional clubs.

  • Don't use your fingers or clap or shout hey or wave at your waiter.

  • Don't make a fuss.

  • Do not talk down or be rude to your waiter.

  • Do not gulp your drinks down.

  • Do not get drunk!

  • Do not adjust your plate or move the table settings around after it has been set

  • Do not reach over, ask for the plate to be passed to you.

  • Don't blow your nose at the table.

  • Once, my friend's brother got asked to leave an elegant restaurant in LA.
  • Stop looking at your phone every 15 minutes! Please put your phone and other devices away and leave them on silent.

  • Please do not touch up your make up at the table.

  • Do not be stingy with your tips, especially if good service was rendered.

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