Guilty of petty judgement

by Kendall

so...this is a toughie but its starting to become a real issue and I'm wondering if you have any friendly suggestions as to how to handle this.

I absolutely HATE my partner's hair and obviously can't say that. I hate that she thinks it looks good when it doesn't. I hate that she keeps going back to this guy who clearly continues to support her poor choice of photos she brings in to him and acquiesces to giving her a cuts and color that looks horrible on her.

Then she goes on about how great this guy is and wonderful she thinks his technique is...ugh. I know this is really petty and shallow but I'm seriously upset it and am feeling guilty about the lack of attraction I'm feeling at this point because she keeps chopping and doing weird things to her head!

I feel like I've been really good about looking past her complete lack of fashion choices since the beginning having convinced myself that its whats inside that counts.

But, I'm a visually stimulated person and after 2 years this is the proverbial straw that broke the camels back. I'm at my wits end. Please help me. What do I do????

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Mar 31, 2010
be honest
by: Anonymous

A good and strong relationship requires honesty. Tell the truth. Next time they talk about going to the hairdresser, mention (gently) trying something different and say that you don't think the current style is flattering. Hopefully they will take the hint, but be prepared to defend your prosition. If you really love this person, they will be honest, even if it stings them in the begining.

Mar 03, 2010
Find Someone Else
by: Leanne

Sounds like you need to break up. I think if you are really in love with the person, these things would not annoy you as much as they sound like they do.

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