How to ask guests to subsidize birthday party?

by L&O
(Texas )

My best girlfriend and I are paying for a beach house food and alcohol for a weekend for our birthdays. On our invitations we would like to politely ask our guest to donate towards what we spent for the weekend. How should we go about dropping this.

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Dec 21, 2011
Don't Do this NEW
by: Anonymous

You're not throwing yourselves a birthday party, you're throwing an extortion party for your guests.

My wife and I were invited to a birthday dinner at a very nice restaurant many years ago. After dinner was served, the hostess thanked us for celebrating her husband's birthday with them, and then let everyone know they were on the hook for diner. We were not amused. The meal was great, but I still left with a sour taste in my mouth.

Jan 15, 2011
Excuse me?
by: Anonymous

How should you go about this? Canceling your plans. Don't ever throw a party for yourself and ask others to pay because you're too cheap.

Oct 07, 2010
Guests, by definition, are not "on the hook"
by: Dandelion

Guests are never on the hook for the cost of the parties they attend. They are invited for the pleasure of their company, not to make your chosen accommodations cheaper.

If all of you are making the arrangements together and are sharing the cost, that's another matter. all parties should be given the option to be involved in decisions that affect the cost of the trip and choice of destination, lodgings, etc.

The birthday girls are not entitled to hit up people so as to be entertained in the style of their choosing.

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