How To Be Perfect

by Eden Barda
(broooklyn, NY 11234)


I must say, I am absolutely astonished by the amount of work you put into this blog. Its amazing to see real dedication in your work, and I must say its paying off! You are doing a wonderful job, balancing this website. I truly admire you and your inspiration that you have instilled in me.
My name is Eden, like the 'The Garden of Eden' but being hard to pronounce, many people prefer Hayden. I am 17 years old and I have been reading your blogs for the past two years. There is this one girl in my class who sits next to me, (this is my final year in school, 12th grade) and she is everything you describe in your blog. I aspire to emulate your ways because I see its effect on everyone around her. Whenever she is spoken about, people say 'Oh My Gosh, she is perfect'. I don't want to say I am jealous but....I am jealous!! I want to achieve that. She was born into a family whose parents are like that and whose financial situation was always well off (to put it modestly). In my case I have to build my way up to the heights that you have reached. I have to lose weight, because no matter how hard I try to feel elegant, it doesn't help. I feel like I over power everyone. I am short and petite, but not very slim so it's even more strange in my opinion!
I am just asking for personal words of encouragement from a role model I aspire to be like! It would truly mean a lot to me!
Thank You Eunice,
Hayden Barda

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Jun 30, 2015
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Dec 10, 2012
You can and you will be perfect NEW
by: Matthew

Did you go to yeshiva rtzahd ? If yes, we use to be in the same class when we were younger. I work at KP near Payless hmu.

Aug 22, 2012
Yes, You CAN! NEW
by: Anonymous

You sound like a bright young woman who has much potential. I happen to be a clairvoyant, and upon reading your post, I was struck by the auras which emanated from within it. I got a sense of an immigrant background in your life. You must embrace this heritage, not shun it. Every culture has its ideas of elegance. Some cultures, particularly Middle Eastern ones, envision the image of an ideal woman as one who is of no great stature. They also shun the Western deification of an emaciated body, choosing instead the healthy build of a well fed woman. Elegance must come from within, as well as from the outside. This means that you must first feel complete inside and only then will you have a chance of looking complete on the outside. Perhaps you have unresolved issues with a close family member? An authority figure? Once these issues have been resolved, you will feel more at peace with yourself, which will reflect onto your outward visage. But if you are looking for advice on a simple clothing choice which will spruce up any outfit and make you feel better, a scarf is the way to go for one with your internal makeup. I wish you much success in all of your endeavors.

Jul 31, 2012
Elegance comes from within NEW
by: Meredith


I understand you want to pursue perfection but the truth is none of us is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes; it is when we recover from them that the elegance within us shines.

By focusing on the interior; your attitudes, actions, values, and ethics, you can improve yourself while still being yourself.

You said you were in your last year of school. I would focus on education, pursue your goals and concentrate on college, as an educated woman is an elegant thing.

As for losing weight, I don't believe one needs to be thin to be elegant. Think of overweight opera singers, they are elegant but certainly not thin! My advice is to make your goal to be healthy, as it is difficult to be elegant when you are sick. Perhaps seeing a doctor who can tell you if you need to lose weight and how to do it would be helpful.

Jan 25, 2012
Don't Try to be Perfect NEW
by: Anonymous

Perfection sounds so appealing, doesn't it? But being perfect is stifling, it eliminates creativity, and in reality, it is impossible to achieve.

Being elegant is about isn't about being perfect. It's not about how much you weigh. It's about being the best you can be and using the gifts you were given with grace and dignity.

Being elegant is not about being like someone else. You already possess everything you need to be elegant, because elegance is a state of mind.

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