I am fifteen-years-old and have a hard time being a lady.

by Sasha Riley

I just turned fifteen and for about four months I've been reading this website. I do have manners, and I am as sweet as a rose. I am obese (I do not look like it), but I always wanted to look just like Grace Kelly, Lucille Ball, Audrey Hepburn.

I run with a dear friend of mine to at least slim down a bit. Another thing is, I come from a family of nine so I am really poor. But deep down, I really want to be elegant, look beautiful, speak properly, and have a wardrobe that is breathless.

I go to school and it is hard to dress elegant when I go to school especially when everyone would make fun of you. If anyone has any suggestions or comments, please let me know. It is my dream to be a classy lady.

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Jul 17, 2012
I'm 11 and Have Trouble Being Elegant NEW
by: Anonymous

I love to be elegant, but I can't and I don't know why. Plus my parents say I'm being to hard on myself when I try to be elegant. I want to take classes, but my parents say it's to expensive. I read about elegance everyday, but I still don't get it... and I don't know why.

Jul 17, 2011
by: Anonymous

I am 13, so I can definitely understand how hard it is to become elegant in a school environment. You seem to like the 50s look, and luckily there is a huge amount of information about the 50s look on the web. Start wearing your new clothes on weekends and wear small touches and work your way up (ex:ballet flats and a 50s ponytail or a circle skirt without a petticoat then both combined)

The first step to getting that look is hair. If you are looking for curled hairstyles search up LisaFreemontStreet on youtube, and 50s hairstyles for ___ hair (medium,long,short). Some ways of getting curls that were used in the 50s were rollers, rags, bobby pins, and perms(but I'd be very cautious of getting a perm, considering how much healthier your hair would be without one). When you use 50s methods it is easier to get closer to a 50s look. Even though curling irons were around since victorian times, they weren't used much in the 50s and only occasionally in the 60s. If you want straight hair or wavy hair, bouffant or wrapped style ponytails work http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_n7UYcK-1Xts/TTcgz-ToV_I/AAAAAAAAAWM/V6RIT_rwgw4/s1600/redken+LV+ponytail.jpg http://www.hairstyletwist.com/blog/uploads/Image/DGG-016863.JPG (and are also great for lazy days when you still want to look polished),veronica lake waves http://www.harpersbazaar.com/cm/harpersbazaar/images/40s-curls-BA-0707-de.jpg and for bangs short audrey style side bangs ,bettie page bangs http://cmgworldwide.com/news/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/bettie-page-b-270x300.jpg or rolled faux bangs http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3346/3446721981_fb44d10eac.jpg

For clothing, learn what proportions you like and eliminate ones you don't like. Such as sleeve length (3/4, 4/4, sleveless, short sleeve), waist length(natural waist,hip,navel),neckline(v,sweetheart, turtleneck,boatneck, etc) skirt length(knee length, tea length,over the knee, mini, floor, ankle etc.) And for colors this article is a good help: http://galadarling.com/advice/fashion-help-for-recovering-goths even though it is for people who don't use much color it is a good way to analyse which colors might work for you. If that doesn't work consider holding up some silver or gold jewelry and some colored tshirts to your face and see which ones make your eyes look bright and lively. Also consider fabrics. What feels great on your skim and makes you happy? What itches and pinches?

I will write more later, if you want to email about this I'd be happy to.

Sep 25, 2010
a piece of suggestion for ya. .sweet little gal
by: yumz


Jul 15, 2010
An elegant look.
by: Anonymous

Everyone has the ability to become more elegant. I feel that you should start by liking yourself more. As far as fashion goes, solid jewel tones such as violet, emerald, deep red and sapphire blue really elevate your look. Keep the silhouette simple: don't overdo embellishments and wear things that trace your figure rather than wearing anything skin tight. Find a tailor if you have to. And a beautiful, classic dress always looks elegant. Hope this helps. *hugs*

P.S. I'm nineteen.

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