Invitation for two - Can I ask my daughters to go instead of my husband and I?

I just received a print out invitation addressed for my husband and I. Included in the invitation was a small piece of paper that read two per invitation. There was no rsvp request.


The invitation is for my aunt's fifith wedding anniversry. My father will be coming in for the event as well as my sister. I want to honor my aunt's request and have decided to ask my daughters who are now 18 (a senior in high school) and 19 (a senior in college) to attend the anniversary ceremony in my place and my husband's place.

Even though the invitation was addressed to my husband and I, would I be in the wrong if I were to ask my daughters who are now 18 (a senior in high school) and 19 (a senior in college) to attend the anniversary ceremony in my place and my husband's place. My youngest does not feel that this is a nice party as family members are being excluded. The invitation also read that the party is being given by her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.

Should I send best wishes and regrets, if I do not attend, or do I need to if there was no rsvp.

I am also hesitant about attending since my youngest expressed mixed emotions when she saw the piece of paper that read two per invitation. She even stated that they did not want young people there as they were not 21.
I assured her that it was the aunt's party and perhaps' there is not enough space in the hall.

Thank you for your response.

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Apr 07, 2015
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No they cannot attend in your place NEW
by: Anonymous

It's perfectly acceptable for a party host to set limits on how many people can come and also to set rules as to whether or not children are invited or to set age limits. Sometimes when there are space/cost considerations age is used as a determining factor in being able to narrow the list down. I have hosted many "adult only" parties and I do not apologize for it. I don't have kids, and while some of my friends do, I have every right to have whoever I want in my home. My home is not kid friendly, neither are the parties I host. I don't enjoy being at parties where kids are the center of attention, or they're making a lot of noise, or they're tearing things apart, or the parents expect me as the host to provide special kid food or special activities for them, and a place for them to rest when they get tired and need to sleep, etc.

Jan 31, 2014
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how is that difficult? NEW
by: Anonymous

You and your husband were invited, either attend or don't. Your spawn were not invited, so no they cannot attend in your place, moron!

Feb 25, 2012
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hard to understand invitecayman NEW
by: Anonymous

in addition to that what if only the 2 were invited fron a family of 4 aunts/uncles did ni
ot get invite could the daughters now bring one of the aunts or uncle with them as thier pplus 1 there was a note on bottom of rsvp said 2 per ivit what should we do and how do we gift???please help!!!!

May 08, 2010
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Sometimes, the best response is call and ask.
by: Eunice replies

The general etiquette is if the invitation is addressed to you and your husband, it should not be interchangeable to have your daughters attend in your place.

If there isn't any name on the invite, but sent to your house, we can safely assume they are addressed to you and your husband.

Best thing is to call up your host and ask if it is okay that your daughters attend instead of you.

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