Manners Lesson Plans
For Elegant Mothers Teaching Manners to Children
Here are some very simple, basic manners lesson plans for elegant mothers everywhere to pass on to their children.
Naturally, whether we like it or not, the manners of children reflect greatly on your elegance, so I thought it would be interesting to devote a page
on the subject.
I'm sure we all have seen the very public badgering of children to buy toys, trashy temper tantrums, parents berating their children out of frustration. To avoid being caught in those situations, we have to have to place the importance on good manners as high priority.
That is why Manners Lessons Plans were written with teaching manners to children in mind. These beautiful little simple lessons are easy little tidbits of manners children and adults will find it easy to digest. They serve as perfect little reminders even to ourselves.
Manners Are Taught
Manners, which are really practical applications of kindness, are taught in some form or another.
Absolutely no one is born with good manners.
Sometimes we get overwhelmed by etiquette or manners, and trying to remember everything.
I'd say, take it slow. Take these lessons one by one before moving on to the next bit. Once they have gotten into the habit of the first lesson, move on to the next.
As for ourselves, bookmark reminders and read them over and over. Say, before you are about to go dinner, you might want to read up on table manners and conversation. Maybe you're about to take a trip, then browse through travel manners once again. That way, we'll find it easier to be the person we want to be.
When in doubt, remember this, " Do unto others what you would have them do unto you".
Remember the best way of teaching manners to children are by being good examples ourselves.
The Basic Manners Lesson Plans
- Learn the magic words: Please, Thank you, Excuse Me, I'm Sorry.
- Encourage the use of the word please by never responding to a request until the word is employed.
- Eliminate, "Yeah" and "Nah".
- "Yes please"
- "No, thank you"
- "Excuse me" is better than "What?" or "Huh?" or "Excuse me, I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you said."
Perfect responses to requests or suggestions:
Manners Lesson Plans in Introductions
- A man is always introduced to a lady.
- A young person is always introduced to an older person.
"Lauren, I'd like you to meet Pastor Prince."
"Pastor Prince, this is my daughter Lauren."
- A 'less important' person (employee) is always introduced to a 'more important' person (president of the company).
- Standing when being introduced is polite.
- When being introduced, say hello !
- Focus on introduction in order to remember names.
- The time-old excuse of "I'm really bad with names" is no excuse.
- Prioritize the importance of standing straight, making eye contact and speaking clearly.
- Slouching, looking down at the floor, at an area over the shoulder or having a wandering eye during a conversation should not be tolerated.
- During a conversation with your child, resist the temptation to answer for her when an adult attempts to engage her in conversation, no matter how much she struggles.
- Always end a conversation with "It was nice to meet you." before leaving.
- Children should get into the habits of addressing adults as "Mr and Mrs".
Manners Lesson Plans In Public Places
- Children should always be by yourself and are not allowed to go wandering off at their own free will. If they behave, reward them by going to a toy store for fifteen minutes.
- A child should not sit on the floor or lie on the ground.
- She should keep her hands to herself and not be pulling things off shelves when shopping.
- Do not touch people's things, if you take her to the office or the bank.
- Neither she or you should make a scene, no matter what warrants it.
- Throws trash in the bin.
Manners Lesson Plans as A Guest
- In a house not her own, she should learn to sit politely until given directions to "go play upstairs".
- She should request to use the bathroom to the owner of the house. A child should be taught to leave the bathroom as she found it.
- She does not touch or use things that do not belong to her.
- She should not be going into other rooms that she has not been invited in, nor opening cupboards and drawers. Even the fridge.
- She should not make comments or comparisons on the house, "Your pool is so small!"
Manners Lesson Plans in Socializing
- She must learn to be considerate of other's feelings. For example, she should not talk about the party if the other children who did not attend or was not invited to the party are in her presence.
- She must learn to be kind and make an effort to include everyone in the conversation or at a party.
- She realizes never to steal the spotlight.
- Never brings an uninvited guest to a dinner or party and never asks if they can bring someone else.
Manners Lesson PLans in Dining, Table Manners
These manners lesson plans in dining or being at the table is very important and usually the first place to start after basic manners are established.
- The napkin is to be placed on the lap. It is used to wipe one's mouth and fingers.
- No matter how famished she is, she waits for everyone and for the host or after the blessing to begin eating.
- She does not bend low to the food, but maintains an upright position and brings food into her mouth. She also does not gobble.
- If a child has finished eating, she should ask politely, "May I please be excused?"
- Dishes are passed to the right.
- When dining in someone's home, always compliment the meal to the host and thank them.
- Never touch her hair at the table.
- Elbows should always be off the table.
- When the phone rings, request to return the call.
- Do not talk on your cell phone at a table in a restaurant so that your child will learn this when she is old enough to have her own cell phone.
- She learns not to make any noise when eating. She does not slurp, crunch ice or stir her tea with a teaspoon loudly. (when she stirs, she keeps it away from the sides in order to minimize the noise).
Personal Hygiene and Grooming
- She does not burps, pass gas in public. If she has to do so, she leaves the room to a toilet, a remote corner etc.
- She does not appreciate or laugh at belching, passing gas or vulgar humour.
- She leaves the bathroom as she found it.
- She does not steal toilet paper.
- She washes her hands before she eats and after she uses the wash room.
- She does not groom or style herself in public and definitely not on a bus!
- She keeps her legs together when sitting.
Manners Lesson Plans in Communication and Expressing Emotion
- Controlling your temper
- Kay west, "A young lady should remember that by making another person feel small, she only succeeds only in diminishing herself."
- She does not express anger, disappointment or frustration by using bad language or insulting someone.
- She does not express anger, disappointment or frustration by throwing, kicking, hitting, or breaking something.
- If she loses her temper, she apologies when she has calmed down.
- She does not shout, pout, sulk, or cry to get what she wants.
- She does not practice name-calling.
- She accepts apologies quickly when they are offered.
- She does not bear grudges.
Some Tips On Teaching Manners Lesson Plans To Children
- Set good examples.
- Listen to your child when he speaks, even if you have heard it before.
- Do not discipline your child in front of others.
- Be generous with compliments and stingy with criticism.
- Do not correct any child on her manners.
- Admit when you are wrong, and offer an apology to your child when you are.
- Respect your child's privacy and boundaries. Knock first.
Recommended Manners Lesson Plans Reading
Recommended books on teaching etiquette to children
My favourite story on manners in this book How To Raise A Lady. It also has many useful manners lesson plans.
I love this story which the author included in her book.
"When I was growing up, we spent a week every summer in a small community of cabins by a mountain lake. Every Saturday night, there was a square dance in the recreation hall. The summer I was twelve, I was sitting at a table with other girls in the camp when one of the boys walked determinedly across the dance floor, positioned himself in front of me, and asked me to dance.
I wasn't terribly fond of this boy, and feeling quite full of myself, said, "No, thank you." As the other girls tittered, he shrank about two inches in height and crept away.
Seconds later, I felt my mother's fingernails digging into my arm as she hissed in my ear, "Come with me." Outside we went, where she let me have it. "Who do you think you are? How dare you turn that boy down when he walked all the way across the room in front of everyone to ask you to dance? Never turn down a man who asks you to dance. It is three minutes out of your life, and it won't kill you. Now you get your little fanny back in there and ask him to dance. And I won't be sorry for you if he says no."
So that's what I did, and he, being more considerate than me, said yes. We danced, and it didn't kill me. In fact, it was fun. I never turned down a man who asked me to dance and have enjoyed every single dance."
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