by nikki

We are an eblished couple. We each come in to our relationship with 2 of everything. We are getting married, but do not want to register for gifts. We would like to ask for money for our honeymoon. How do you put that on the wedding invitation without sounding totally rude? Please help.

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Jul 30, 2015
Nice NEW
by: Anonymous

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Mar 24, 2015
It's never ok in the invitation. NEW
by: Tookie clothespin

I concur with dandelion. It's never ok to mention gifts on your invitation or really anywhere near it. That means inserts are also inappropriate. But there is an easy way around it! Include a mention of your wedding website. "For guest information please visit our website..." Then sign up for a honeymoon registry and include it on your site.

Problem solved.

Nov 04, 2014
Gift lists - British etiquette NEW
by: Anonymous

The use of gift lists possibly depends on the culture of the country in question and it is perfectly normal to include information on this in the wedding invitation in the UK. Even from what I have read in the Debrett's guide to wedding etiquette it is absolutely acceptable. Guests can then make their own choice as to what they want to do - they might buy a gift from the list or prefer to buy vouchers, give money or buy something of their own choice. We had a small gift list at our wedding and I have seen this at all weddings that I have been to in the UK. Some guests chose to use it and others didn't. It is not rude in any way in British culture although I realise it may be different in other countries.

Jul 18, 2014
How to word asking for money in a wedding invite NEW
by: Debbie

Of course tradition dictates that money should never be requested. But times have changed. Girls are no longer leaving their parents with nothing but a trousseau. People are either living together or on their own and have accumulated all that they need. You can put a small card or elegant paper in your invitation with the following wording:

"As we are fortunate to find ourselves without the need of a bridal registry, contributions to our new life together would be gratefully appreciated."

This is what I used for my own wedding over 20 years ago and I had no issues. It also takes the burden off of the attendees to shop. I did alot of "manners/etiquette" research at the time to get the wording right. This wording makes it so that no one is obliged to give either. We put a small decorated box for envelopes for those who wished to give in a corner on a table at the reception.

I will say that it should not be mentioned to anyone what the money is to be used for.

Oct 01, 2013
no gift requests in the invitation NEW
by: Dandelion

Best wishes and congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

Don't put anything in the invitation about gifts--that's never included in the invitation, so no wording worries there. (It would sound like you were asking for gifts or people were obligated to give them, and you definitely can't go there and be supported by manners or etiquette--quite the contrary.)

People may ask about a registry (the standard used to be that the couple's close relatives would give out registry information in response to inquiries--I don't know if your wedding guests would ask you directly, or if there's an obvious person they'd ask).

Ideally, the reply to an inquiry about registries would be: "You're so kind to ask! They really couldn't think of anything they needed for the house, so they opted not to do the traditional registry."

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