No Showbad - Bad Manners

by michelle
(New york, ny)

My kids and I flew to west palm beach for an elegant wedding. My sister also received an invitation for her 5- member family which she rsvcp 3 months in advance.

I decided to drive from the airort to my sister's apartment before heading to the hotel, whereas, we would change for the wedding.

To my surprise, she was not dressed, yet mentioned they are moving soon and cannot attend. Wow! She never informed the bride or her mother they will be a "no show". The bride's mother told me she was very disappointed because other friends from outside of the US could honoured their rsvp.

No one addressed my sister's rudeness, but I was embarrassed of her behaviour and lack of decorum. I think she was jealous of the bride because she always comments negatively about anyone who improves and adds flavour to their life.

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Oct 24, 2012
by: Anonymous

Well! That's really bad manner!

Sep 29, 2011
Tacky Relatives
by: Anonymous

Some folks view class and etiquette as a chore. The wedding would of placed TOO much effort on their part to participate as elite guests. So, naturally they declined. Unfortunately, you reserved space and had to absorb the costs. But, their lack of manners are a reflection of the inability to keeping up appearances.

Send them a lovely note thanking them for attending. Hopefully they will get the message.


Sep 29, 2011
Poor taste!
by: Giver

We just had my daughter's wedding and we had the same thing happen. A family of five sent their 'will be attending' response and then didn't show up. I was aggravated as it is very costly per person for the dinner and reception, but knew from that time on not to invite them again. Recently, my husband and I responded yes on the invite and then my husband was ill and unable to attend. I went to the reception alone and then about a week later sent a nice gift box of fruit to the family with an apology for my husband not being able to be there. I felt that was at least an attempt to redeem myself. Another 'no show' family later told us they had 'forgotten' it was my daughter's wedding! Then they added, "Oh, I wish we had remembered as we didn't have anything to do that night." That added to the insult I thought. Nevertheless, I'll remember and not keep them on the next wedding list! Even with save the date and with stamped reply cards so many people fail to respond or fail to show. What a shame!

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