No Thank You Card For Cheque Mailed? Is it Appropriate To Call And Ask?

by Denise
(Sudlersville, Md.)

I was invited to a bridal shower which I did not attend. I did mail a card with a check in it. This was mailed in mid May. It is almost the end of July and I have not received a thank-you. I have seen the bride to be in these months and she hasn't said anything. I don't know how to approach her to ask if she received my card, or do I. The wedding is soon.

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Jul 31, 2012
Thank Mom NEW
by: Meredith


There is a common misconception that brides have one year to write thank you notes. In reality, three months is considered the proper time.

Can you call the bride's mother and inquire if the cheque was received? You can tell her you haven't heard anything from her daughter and you are concerned about the possibility of it being lost in the mail. Her mother then can delicately remind her to write thank you notes without the embarrassment that may result in someone else reminding her.

Jul 30, 2011
by: Anonymous

it is very impolite not to acknowledge a gift whether it be in the form of a check or otherwise. This person sounds ungrateful and impolite and if it were me, after checking with the bank first to see if the check was cashed, I would ask her point blank if she received it. I have actually done this and it leaves them speechless most of the time. I have very little use of people who cannot write a "thank you" note.

Mar 22, 2011
Do a little sleuthing first
by: Anonymous

One way to find out would be whether the check was cashed/deposited. Check your bank records first. If it has not cleared your bank, you may want to put a stop on it before buying a new gift or writing a new check.

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