Social Ease - Grace your way through parties

How To Be An Elegant Social Butterfly!

Grace your way through any party with elegant communication.

As you increase in elegance, you'll find yourself being invited to a lot of parties and events. The most part about being elegant "is always about other people." The way you are elegant is when others pick out that trait in you!

What is greater in elegance is learning how to throw a party, or being the gracious host of a function.

Sooner or later you'll find yourself sitting on charity boards, networking/club organizations - have the confidence to do so.

But all these starts with learning how to carry yourself gracefully through a bash.

Socializing is part of being elegant.

Enjoy, darlings!

Social Keynote

Remember we are no different from one another, not better, not worse. irregardless of outward appearances etc.

The focus is to get the person as comfortable socially as possible to you, or for you to get as comfortable with the person as possible.

With a respectful, non intrusive, light-hearted friendliness.

More Social Tips

When Invited To A Party

RSVP as soon as possible!

This means you notify your host as soon as possible whether or not you can make it.

I feel a lot of people decide early on but neglect to do so and do so only in the last minute.

This is an act of kindness because you allow your host more time to prepare for her party.

Don't cancel on a whim.

Having thrown many parties myself, I find this very distasteful: last minute cancellations.

I've toiled, prepared, spent money and genuinely want that person to be there - but to my disappointment to receive a last minute text message, sometimes hours already into the party, that he/she is not coming.

You may think that the party is huge, and it wouldn't make a difference, trust me, it does. And the host was so kind to think of you to invite you, prepare, and allow you into her social circle to meet her friends.

I find this pattern of not-rsvp-ing and worse still, last minute cancellations appalling in this modern day and age.

To add an elegant touch, bring a gift.

Use your own discretion, sometimes ask, "Can I bring anything?"And do bring it when your hosts requests, "Oh, some ice cream would be nice."

Check what is appropriate to wear to the party.

Is the party a fine dining event? Dress up in your favourite classic gown.

Is it a cocktail party? Pull out that little black dress.

Is it a dinner party? Is it a beach side picnic? Is it to watch the finale of the Olympics?

When you arrive at the party

#1. Greet everyone with your biggest smile at a dinner party, or find the host first to greet her.

#2. Introduce yourself, if the host is too busy to introduce you.

#3. Keep conversations light-hearted and happy.

#4. Be discrete when exchanging contacts.

#5. Do not ask intrusive or potentially intrusive questions!

#6. Praise the host in conversations.

#7. Mingle, do not linger too long in one person's party.

#8. Do not talk about work, your problems, dreams or aspirations. Unless its not intense like, "I would love to go to Greece!", "Its my dream to one day ski in Whistler." Do not do business or make business contacts at a party! Click the link to know how to do so discretely.

#9. Do not arrive late and do not leave too early or too late.

#10. Find the host again and thank her before you leave.

Social Greetings

We are often nervous when being invited to a party.

Here are some pointers on how to become comfortable at a party. For a more detailed information, read my article on the

For a more detailed insight for more social etiquette check out Party Etiquette

Social Tip: What To Do When You Are Intimidated

What To Do When You Meet Snobs!

Lastly, when you feel intimidated, focus on some of the similarities that you have with the other person. Achieve common ground. If you have none or do not know too much about the person, speak about a general subject:

"Did you watch the movie, Slumdog Millionaire?"
"Did you hear about the new shopping mall?"

If the person is not very responsive or merely answers your question with a bored look, say "It was nice meeting you and move on."

Don't Take It Personally!

Not everyone we meet we will immediately take to, but with that saying, she could have at least reciprocated some manners.

When someone intentionally intimidates you,

or looks down on you, the best way to respond is to ignore her. Don't be rude or pretend not to see her or answer her when she talks to you. But excuse yourself, laugh, have a great time with other people around you at the party and hardly notice her at the party from then on.

Most of these people secretly want attention or want to put down others to make them feel better than themselves. We graciously respect ourselves too much to give in to their whims.

If they realize their mistake and attempt to connect with you again, be gracious about it. Pay her just enough attention to be polite but afterward go along your merry way. Use your own discretion should you pursue that friendship.

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