There has to be a better answer than "No Problem"!

by Frustrated

Perhaps I was raised by a mother and family that is outdated in their thinking on polite speech; nevertheless I find myself sticking true to many of the standards set by my mother when addressing, responding or simply conversing with another person.

In a world where it is commonplace to respond with "yeah" and "sure thing" I have found myself adapting. HOWEVER I find much frustration in the phrase "no problem" and "not a problem". I currently have an employee, a young employee, who responds either "no problem" or "not a problem" to nearly all things said to and asked of her and one of these days I'm worried I'm going to respond "Good I'm glad it's not a problem" - to which I have to admit is spoken each time privately in my mind.

I find the response rude and disrespectful. The icing to this insolence cake was an email response I received from a vendor (whom is soliciting my business, though I do not have intention with to do business) today when I denied an appointment time he requested. Am I crazy? Or have I become a stuffy, too-traditional bitty?

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Mar 01, 2013
No problem NEW
by: Gina

My 63 year old husband constantly uses this phrase , he means that he will do what is necessary to be done. This drove my father crazy , but i do not see the problem at all . In fact in many languages the proper answer to thank you is translated as not a problem .
If this is your employee and you dont want him using this phrase on phone calls or with customers , advise him on the proper script you have prepared . Otherwise I think you are over reacting .
He is not using profane or rude language .He is trying to tell you he will do what your are asking

Aug 20, 2010
No Problem
by: Melanie

I am 48 years old and I cannot get over the feeling I get everytime someone tells me "No Problem". That phrase came about with the younger generation and I honestly do not feel that they think it's inconsiderate in any way. I don't think they understand since most of the younger generation have not been taught how to verbally show respect for others yet at the same time I cringe every time I hear it. Even though I understand how they think there is nothing wrong with it....I can't get past it.


Apr 17, 2010
"No Problem"
by: Elaine

I think it really depends on the sort of tradition/culture you were brought up in. In my family, boasting is rude, we usually lower ourselves. (E.g.: If I got a A+ in something, I say I can still improve)

But in my friend's family, when she gets a B+, she can brag and not say anything about "improving" herself.

I've learnt to be mannered myself, but not to expect everyone else to be.

Hope this answers your question.


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