To Become As Elegant As I Feel In My Dreams

by Charlotte

I'm a young woman, just eighteen, and social graces and etiquette was not something my parents bothered to teach me while growing up. Of course, they taught me to say 'Please' and 'Thank you' and the very basics, but I find myself attempting to transition into an adult, and I'm floundering.

I'm overweight, and I have always had poor body image and a low self-esteem. I'm used to dressing in jeans and old t-shirts, and although I try my best to act and speak maturely, people have looked down on me because of how I dress and act.

My mother is a very loud, obnoxious woman, and though it pains me to say this, an embarrassment. She talks loudly, laughs loudly, and is nosy and rude. When I was younger, I thought this was okay, but now I find myself embarrassed to be around her, and I'm struggling to become more ladylike.

I've recently bought new clothes, that makes me feel nice, and my mother is always making snide comments on how I get dressed up for nothing. I want to feel beautiful, and if my clothing makes me feel this way, then that's what I'll be wearing.

I'm trying to improve my posture, my speaking with others, my attire, and my general appearance and attitude.

I know that this site will help me become the person I want to be.


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Jul 08, 2011
by: Lisa

Wonderful piece, Charlotte.
Don't give up your dream on being elegant,
you are in my prayers.

All the best,

Apr 13, 2010
In Australia too!
by: Laura

Well done for wanting to make yourself a elegant lady.
I am from Australia and 25 and there is nothing wrong with brown brothers moscato i like it!

Mar 13, 2010
by: Anonymous

I know exactly what you mean, I'm eighteen, too... It's nice to know I'm not the only eighteen year old that feels this way. I wonder if I'm the only one in Australia? I remember my New Years Eve with my friend and a few of her boyfriend's friends, all standing around drinking those little colourful vodka bottles and making fun of me for drinking "fancy" drink. (Moscato is hardly fancy.) Take care!

Mar 09, 2010
by: Anonymous

What a beautiful aspiration!! Have fun and go for it!. xxxx

Mar 09, 2010
Good for you!
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel. I live in quite a casual world right now, but "dressing up" is so fun and just makes you feel good inside. Sometimes, when I'm alone, I'll put on a dress and fix my hair, just to sit around and read or work. It's silly, but it's also kind of charming.
You aren't dressing up for nothing, you're dressing up for yourself! God made us so that we are perfect, and I think it's great that we're able to celebrate that by dressing in a way that makes us feel good and look nice.
Best wishes and good luck!

Mar 08, 2010
by: Anonymous

Go, girl! Your not alone.

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