To meet other elegant people?

by Eloraine

I am fed up with the people I seem to meet. I don't want to sound awful but I fear that in day-to-day life I meet people who don't care for class or elegance or even manners.


Other people in my age group are alien to me, I can't even slightly relate to the majority of them and it's very rare that I meet somebody I bond with.

I want to meet people like myself to enjoy lovely things, like attending charity balls, luncheons, high tea, theatre, opera...

I like throwing dinner parties, however my friends of convenience don't respond appropriatly.

I want to meet likeminded people with whom I can befriend, however I have no idea where to begin.

Can you help? Do you perhaps know of an online forum, or maybe some things I can do/places I can go?

Congratulations on the marriage!

Eloraine.

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May 21, 2016
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by: Michelle Faye

Oh, how I comiserate with your Eloraine! My entire life has been a quest for people such as that. The problem is that unless you are in the upper class in America the chances of encountering a person with elegance are extremely slim. In fact, most Americans seem to pride themselves on being the exact opposite; and those who try to live a gracious life are ridiculed and humiliated. It seems to get worse with each passing year. Therefore, I live a lonely life with no friends who share my taste and ideals. I do not have status or money, so I never encounter those who strive to be elegant. I believe anyone from any sector of society can have refinement; sadly It has been my experience that they just don't want to.

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by: Butane

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Aug 08, 2015
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by: Ashlyn Johnson

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Aug 06, 2013
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Old fashioned is better :) NEW
by: Anonymous

I totally agree with everyone here. I have always wanted people who know about Fred Astaire, Ginger Rogers and Grace Kelly. As well as many other actors. Things back then were elegant and perfect. There was no need for "improving". I too feel I was born in the wrong era :). I love this website and I'm so glad I found it. If anyone knows of an old fashioned city in the U.S that is filled with old fashioned ideas please let me know. Thank you and keep being elegant :)

Aug 06, 2013
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Old fashioned is better :) NEW
by: Anonymous

I totally agree with everyone here. I have always wanted people who know about Fred Astaire, Ginger Rogers and Grace Kelly. As well as many other actors. Things back then were elegant and perfect. There was no need for "improving". I too feel I was born in the wrong era :). I love this website and I'm so glad I found it. If anyone knows of an old fashioned city in the U.S that is filled with old fashioned ideas please let me know. Thank you and keep being elegant :)

Apr 13, 2010
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I know how you feel!
by: Lida

This is something I've been struggling with too as of late. It seems that my peers have quite different tastes than I do. It's fine to chat with the girls in my school about what happened on The Amazing Race last night, but if I ever wanted to discuss the classics or chat about history, I have to call my grandmother.

I love my friends, though, for who they are, and we do share the love of certain books and musicals. This is something I've heard since I was eight, but our differences make us special!

Until I meet a perfect elegant companion, I'm content with and thankful for this website. (And the Victorian Trading Co. Sometimes I feel like I was born in the wrong time, too!)

Mar 13, 2010
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by: Eloraine

Jeanne and Sarah Jane, I really appreciate the feedback! Thank you; it is most helpful. I have a plan regarding my life thus so far, including studying and building a career, then I plan to move, after saving towards my dream house, overseas to experience different cultures and hopefully find a setting in which I feel I fit. I find the primary issue is my generation. My "peers" hold different values to my own and I always assumed that with age, they would "catch up". It seems I'm wrong. It's worrying. I don't enjoy the modern world. I feel I was born in the wrong time.
Sarah, that's awful :( I don't mean to pry, but is your son's school very nice? Unfortunately I witness even private school children carrying-on in public and it's appalling. Perhaps you could enroll him into a chess club or tennis lessons? bubt even then, I attended tennis lessons as a young child and there were rude people there, too. I'm trying to save my money and prepare a future in which I can be financially well-off, so I can afford to move into a nice neighbourhood with houses like this http://www.swanseacottages.com.au/bayviewcottagebig.jpg
and be able to relocate should I ever need to.
Have a lovely day!




Mar 10, 2010
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Change your Enviroment
by: Jeanne

Have you join elegantwoman.org's facebook? http://www.facebook.com/pages/Elegantwomanorg/121575944721

Also sometimes it's good to change your environment.

1) Join an art class, church

2) Meet new friends through travel

3) Start a new hobby in photography

4) Build a business and meet like-minded people.

5) Move to a new city even

6) If you get a new job, jump at it etc

Just my 0.02 cents

Mar 04, 2010
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...I could not agree more!
by: Sarah Jane

...what a thought provoking article. It made me reply! I too have this same challenge. My peers and those of my little boy all seem so alien and I have to self depreciate to be accepted and then still feel alone! Is there no one at the school gate with manners, standards and rules for their children??? Does the word aperatif refer to dentures?? Where can we meet like minded folk ? This is a wonderful idea to communitcate on this website and I graciously thank you for setting it up and you for writing.

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