Undisciplined children visiting your home...

by Dedee Libo
(ABQ, NM)

Last week, my husband and I invited our employee's wife and two young children into our home, because it was snowing outside and it was the polite thing to do.


My husband and I are in our fifties and we have expensive art on the walls as well pottery pieces and breakable nice home decor.

I welcomed this family into our home, offered food and drink and to turn cartoons on the TV to entertain the two little ones.

I should explain that my husband had his male employee helping him with winterizing our pool outside, while the wife and kids were inside with me for a while.

It wasn't long before the kids were jumping with their shoes on our expensive leather sofas, in the presence of their mother. Then they starting banging a car key inside an expensive bowl displayed on our coffee table. Then, they kicked over two ice cream cups that I had served them which splattered the coffee table and all over the spotless area rug.

I was so upset, but did not feel it my place to discipline them in front of their mother.
She would tell them " no" after each incident, but they would say " no" back to her.

The last straw was when she gave her son a small soft ball to play with and my husband told the child not to throw it in our house.... The child threw the ball and hit a piece of art on the wall. That was it for me.

The mother said that she would take the kid's for a drive and I said OK.

In the future, what would be a better way to handle that situation?
Thank you,
Dedee

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Sep 23, 2015
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Aug 19, 2011
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It's your home your rules you handle it
by: Anonymous

If any kids or adults are in my home or yard they follow our rules. I will correct any kid in my home for anything that I do not like. Better yet, if I don't let my child do it then they aren't going to do it either. If there is the parent gets upset then they don't have to ever return. Too many kids today do not have any manner's, even the simple ones. Very sad. But I will not have my child see the behavior and think it's ok for them to do it.

Jun 28, 2011
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Destruction of your Home
by: cindy

Kick them all out! That is your home and if they don't respect it, they don't deserve to be in it. The mother must be a moronic, mindless breeder who doesn't know how to raise her kids with any manners.

Mar 16, 2010
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Taking Control
by: Anonymous

Just take control of your home! Simple!

Mar 03, 2010
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by: Anonymous

I know exactly what you went through. I have been a fulltime babysitter to three children since they were toddlers. The three are angels when away from their parents (and they know I will discipline them). They are quiet and mannerly. But, allow their parents (especially their mother) in the room and they begin bouncing on the furniture, chasing the cat, waking the baby, fighting, screaming, throwing vases, drawing blood, etc. She would laugh nervously at first, then get onto them when I did not laugh. They would talk back.
I try to take care of my house, but it was impossible with those circumstances. I learned that the only way to keep the children from destroying my house and keep their family’s acquaintance was to keep them outside. Even then, I ended up with 500 dents in my car door and my garden was trampled, but my house was not destroyed.

Jan 19, 2010
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Future issues of this nature...
by: Anonymous

Thank you Eunice. I will certainly do things differently, should I ever encounter this type of issue again.

Sincerely,
Dedee

Jan 19, 2010
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Don't blame yourself for what happened
by: Eunice

I know it's hard to talk about what you should have done - let's face it, putting myself in your shoes, I might have been in shock to be rational enough to handle the same situation.

I think if it happens again, I would run to your husband and his employee to help handle the children. I would also privately apologize later for asking him to do so. Better yet, they won't be entering the dining area or any area in the house with nice things.

Perhaps in the future, we'll be inviting families with children (especially those whom you do not know are disciplined or not) for lunch or tea, and in the garden with less precious outdoor furniture and ware.

That's the best I can think of now!

Jan 18, 2010
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by: Eunice

My goodness. I'm in shock. Let me have a think about it and get back to you.

You were definitely gracious about the matter.

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