Victorian Manners and Etiquette
Many Victorian manners or etiquette rules probably do not apply today.
Gentility is ever so graceful. Bring back chivalry!
History of Victorian Manners, Etiquette
Etiquette was a large part of education. Social responsibility was heavily emphasized in Victorian days.
Ladies were judged by their manners. It reflected on their upbringing, class or status, their family's wealth and the quality of education. It 'justified' the kind of man (or class of a man) they would be entitled to marry.
If they did not devote enough attention and study of their manners and refinement, they would most certainly not be able to "marry well", or even get married at all! You'll be able to see this echoed in Jane Austen's novels such as "Pride and Prejudice" and "Sense and Sensibility".
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Victorian Manners, Etiquette Applied to Daily Life
For example, in the book 'Pride and Prejudice', Mr Bingley's sister kept interrupting Mr Darcy when he was trying to write a letter. Instead of the modern day response, "Can you please talk to me later? I'm trying to write." He said, (paraphrased) "Do allow me to convey your sentiments to my sister another time, I do not have room (in the letter) to do justice to your words."
Victorian Manners Etiquette Applied to Beauty
In Victorian times, the true foundation of female loveliness is a natural beauty.
Beauty must be natural, fair and clear skin due to good health, rosy cheeks due to excitement and a zest for life. Interesting eyes are brought by interesting thoughts and a sharp, educated mind.
Dress must be modest, but not dowdy. Feminine styles and colors are preferred.
There is a greater distinction between men and women in dress and behavior than the modern society today.
Victorian Manners, Etiquette
Applied to Socializing and Leisure
There is the art of conversation, where people challenge theories in discussion and their reading of books. In essence, they enjoy witty conversations, discussing theories back and forth.
The patience for these types of conversations are getting less in modern day. There is more to distract people with, such as the interruptions of mobile phones.
For leisure, they often go on walks, visit each other in their homes, draw, paint, read, write letters and play the piano.
They visit shops to buy fabrics, lace and buttons to make a bonnet or a dress.
You may like:
Missy Manners on the Art of Conversation
Manners Today A List Of Good Manners