Visiting Someone with Cancer

A very close friend of my husband's has just informed us that he has terminal cancer. He has been given 2 to 5 months to live. He says that presently he is feeling fine. He and his wife usually go to Florida for the winter and he has asked my husband and me to visit. His chemotherapy will be able to be administered in Florida and he will have one treatment per week. I do not want to stay too long and feel that two nights is long enough. It is a day's drive from our home and my husband wants to stay at least 3 nights and possibly 4.


My husband and his friend have not had an opportunity over the years to visit often and they have stayed in touch mostly by phone and cards.

What are your thoughts on a proper length of stay under these circumstances?

Thank you,

Mississippi Visitor



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Feb 12, 2010
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by: Annie

How about letting your husband's friend dictate the length of stay? Since no one is sure how the treatments will be tolerated, maybe you could plan to stay the 3-4 days but be prepared to move to a hotel/entertain yourselves with other activities if the friend cannot handle visitors for the entire length of time.

My condolescences to you.

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