Was a gift given?

by Mindy

I'm in a quandry--My uncle, who is very generous and often gives gifts to my children, either forgot (or chose not) to give my son a Bar Mitzvah gift, OR, we have misplaced the gift in the tumult of the event. I don't want to solicit a gift if one wasn't offered, but if one was given, it needs to be acknowledged properly. Should I contact my uncle to see if he did give a gift or just leave it alone and risk that he did, and wouldn't be acknowledged?

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Oct 21, 2014
Was a gift given NEW
by: Emily

I would not nor would I have anyone else inquire about the MIA gift. I would simple write a thank you note that stated how much you enjoyed your uncle attending and leave it at that. If the Uncle mentions a gift, then admit that it is missing

Apr 07, 2011
How to find out...
by: Anonymous

Never would I call to ask--get someone else to do it--a relative.

May 08, 2010
Gentle Honesty Probably.
by: Eunice replies

I understand your dilemma. Call him and say, "I'm really sorry to ask you if you sent a gift, not because we're asking for gifts but we just hope we have not misplaced it!"

And if he says, "Oh I'm so sorry, I did not give you a gift."

Then quickly insist that all is well and that's all the matter. If he did, then maybe both of you can track down the missing gift.

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