Watching TV during a friend's visit? Is that Rude?

I visited a very good friend as she was sick and not feeling well. During my visit her TV was on and she kept on watching whatever was on TV ( nothing particular) and also did some small talk.


I thought this as being rude and we disagreed. But we did agree to keep an open mind and listen to your advise. Thanks

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Aug 14, 2016
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Rude NEW
by: Anonymous

My friend asked me to come over. Her mother and her were watching tv rlthe whole time!!! So rude!!

Feb 08, 2014
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Watching t.v. instead of visiting with guests NEW
by: gramcat

My husband rarely turns off or even turns down the t.v., no matter who comes to visit. I gave him headphones for Christmas, as our living room is the main place the family uses. Even while in the kitchen or our rooms, we can hear the t.v. He will use the headphones and not respond to us at all; but the volume is still loud (he can use the mute key on the remote but still hear with the headphones). He also hates to share the t.v.; insisting on watching what he wants, then becomes quarrelsome if I am not interested. Many times we end up going upstairs and visiting in one of the bedrooms!
Any questions or conversations with him become nasty arguments as he takes everything as a criticism; no matter how it is said. He also complains that he can't hear so that we have to repeat ourselves, then becomes angry and tells us we're shouting (trying to talk so he can hear over the t.v.).
He also makes constant comments and asks "rhetorical" questions during movies, t.v. shows and commercials.
I don't think there is anything anyone can really do to alter another person's behavior if they are addicted to t.v. or so self-involved that they really don't want to spend time with you.
If I want to visit someone who is sick, I will call them first, make sure that the time is right for them, then ask them if they are up to company when I arrive. If there is something on tv that we both enjoy, I will watch-- - if not, I will ask them if there is something I can do to make them comfortable -- - make them a cup of tea, tidy up a bit, etc. If not, I will tell them that I had only planned to stay a short time and that I really must get on my way for other tasks.


Feb 08, 2014
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Watching t.v. instead of visiting with guests NEW
by: Anonymous

My husband rarely turns off or even turns down the t.v., no matter who comes to visit. I gave him headphones for Christmas, as our living room is the main place the family uses. Even while in the kitchen or our rooms, we can hear the t.v. He will use the headphones and not respond to us at all; but the volume is still loud (he can use the mute key on the remote but still hear with the headphones). He also hates to share the t.v.; insisting on watching what he wants, then becomes quarrelsome if I am not interested. Many times we end up going upstairs and visiting in one of the bedrooms!
Any questions or conversations with him become nasty arguments as he takes everything as a criticism; no matter how it is said. He also complains that he can't hear so that we have to repeat ourselves, then becomes angry and tells us we're shouting (trying to talk so he can hear over the t.v.).
He also makes constant comments and asks "rhetorical" questions during movies, t.v. shows and commercials.
I don't think there is anything anyone can really do to alter another person's behavior if they are addicted to t.v. or so self-involved that they really don't want to spend time with you.
If I want to visit someone who is sick, I will call them first, make sure that the time is right for them, then ask them if they are up to company when I arrive. If there is something on tv that we both enjoy, I will watch-- - if not, I will ask them if there is something I can do to make them comfortable -- - make them a cup of tea, tidy up a bit, etc. If not, I will tell them that I had only planned to stay a short time and that I really must get on my way for other tasks.


Aug 23, 2012
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She shown no respect NEW
by: Anonymous

As far as I am concerned her behaviour is unacceptable. Friends are hard to come by and she is LUCKY to have you in her life. She should have shown you enough respect to have focused on you and not the TV.

Aug 23, 2012
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She shown no respect NEW
by: Anonymous

As far as I am concerned her behaviour is unacceptable. Friends are hard to come by and she is LUCKY to have you in her life. She should have shown you enough respect to have focused on you and not the TV.

Nov 20, 2010
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Sick and tired
by: Karen

If you just dropped by, she has every right to keep watching, because you are intruding on her and watching t.v. is what she wanted to do. But she should also be nice and either put the show on "record" or explain to the guest that you just settled in to watch your favorite show. If I were the one dropping in, I would have brought something to her first of all, scoped out the situation, and said I won't bother you, just wanted to make sure you were getting along ok. You can take a cue from her, if she wants you to stay she will ask that you do, or she will say, "I'm not much up to company right now". It's important for both parties to be polite, in order to save the friendship.

May 08, 2010
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by: Eunice replies

Well if she is really sick, that is why she is unlike her chatty self, then maybe you were just not used to it.

If she didn't want you there for a long time, she should have said she so, (maybe by giving excuses that she was tired and wants to sleep). Instead of blanking watching the television and hoping you might go.

If she was not sick, had invited you over, then watching tv when you were there can be rude. Or maybe she was just very comfortable having you around and not talking.

I think this was just a breakdown in communication and I'm sure your friendship is more important than to continue with this.

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