When the talker tries to get a certain reaction from you

I fell awkward when someone tells me something that makes them react a certain way and they reiterate the part in the story that creates the reaction as though I don't get it.


I feel as though I'm suppose to respond in a way that says I would react the same way in that situation. Also, it makes me feel that they feel that I "don't get it" because I wouldn't react the same way.

How can tactfully handle situations like these?

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Jan 15, 2011
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Had to be there?
by: Anonymous

If this is only about someone telling you a story, like you don't laugh when they expect you to, or you don't understand why its an exciting thing, just say 'well I guess you had to be there' when you don't respond.

May 08, 2010
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Turn the conversation back to them.
by: Eunice replies

Turn the conversation around and say, "So how did you respond when you were in the situation?" Sometimes, they just want to tell you but are trying to be polite.

Continue nodding politely, smiling on occasion and excuse yourself a minute later.

If you think it may hurt their feelings because they did not get the reaction from you, just give them a bit of what they want and be done with it.

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