when to tell a friend to be quiet


(Florida)

I have a friend who has been working out for several years now. My problem is that whenever I talk to her I have to hear how she’s coming from the gym, going to the gym, just took a spinning class, etc, etc, etc. I have worked out for years and have never brought it up to anyone. I figure no one really cares. Kinda like taking out the trash…one of those things you have to do but don’t talk to everyone about. And it isn’t like she’s a size 2 or anything. She’s down to a 14, and used to be really big. I’m very proud of her, but I can’t take hearing about her workouts much longer without blowing up. I certainly don’t want to ruin a friendship over something this petty, but she’s driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!

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Nov 30, 2011
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by: wise and wacky

It sounds like your friend is excited about losing weight. This is not about you, or updating you on the gym schedule. She probably wants to share in how good she is feeling, and if you want to be a good friend, you should acknowledge her efforts. Everyone likes to hear they are doing a good job. Tell her you're proud of her and watch her glow! Then you can tell her jokingly, "OK, you can keep up the good work, I don't need the updates! I can see the results."

If she persists in telling you, just accept that this is important to her. A good distraction, that never fails, is: "Oooh, nice shoes!"

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